I am in a 9-year relationship that I am supposed to be joyous about because my man has finally proposed to me, but I feel trapped. I don’t know why. This is something I have always been dreaming of but when I finally get it; I don’t want it anymore. I am a Yoruba woman and he is Igbo. He is a wonderful man to be with but sometimes he is scary. My real fear is his family especially the way they attach important to having at least a male child. It scares the hell out of me. I say this because I don’t want to be like my neighbour who has nine girls and is still looking for a boy. God forbid that be my portion but sometimes when I think about this, it scared the living day light out of me. Please what can I do? (I am already pregnant)
If you are not ready for the marriage please let him know. It’s better to end a relationship than end a marriage but you should have been sure of yourself before you got into the family way. As for your fear, you are just being paranoid, wish yourself the best things in life and my dear it will be so with you. As a woman, you should always be prepared for challenges because this life is full of it. Another thing is that how well do you and your man communicate? This is essential in any relationship not to say marriage. Don’t let his family be too involved in your marriage or else there is going to be serious problem. Feel free, enjoy what life has to give you and kill that fear so that it won’t rule you. The earlier you kill the fear the better for you. Congrats dear.