Daddy Freeze has reacted by disagreeing with Mary Remmy Njoku’s statement that men who pay bills aren’t doing their wives or the mother of their kids a favour.
Remmy had earlier said marriage/parenting is a partnership and men paying bills are simply holding up their end of the bargain.
Freeze reacted:
I’m struggling to understand this.
Two people are working, but only one is paying the bills and it’s supposed to be a partnership?
The banality of this in my opinion, suggests a concoction of contradictions, conveying a message which on the one hand recommends partnership, but then on the other, advocates for African men, whilst at the same time seemingly ignoring the benefits of a patriarchal society.
Traditional African men don’t ‘partner’ with their wives, they pay bills and consequently own women, who in return serve them, while tolerating polygamy and concubinage.
Modernization propounds a social scheme denouncing some of the ‘benefits’ of a patricentric system, in favor of a balance in gender roles and privileges.
I find it inequitable to select only the aspects of both constructs that benefit only a particular gender, increasing the responsibilities of the other while depriving them of their dividends.
‘Sharing’ instead of ‘paying’ the bills, would have been more appropriate in my opinion.
~FRZ”
